- Give too much of something to; inundate – ‘they were overwhelmed by farewell messages’
- Have a strong emotional effect on – ‘I was overwhelmed with guilt’
- Be too strong for; overpower – ‘the Stilton doesn’t overwhelm the flavour of the trout’
Overwhelm to me is more of a feeling, a feeling of having taken on too much, of having too much to do, of not having space or time to organise, focus, and move forward.
My head feels fuzzy, murky, unclear and even the thoughts of facing another item on my ‘to do list’ makes me feel tired.
This is a familiar feeling to me and happens every now and again, not often enough to be a huge issue but often enough that I like to put a system in place to deal with it.
I am very mindful to watch out for and recognise overwhelm as it arrives and deal with it before it affects my physical, mental & emotional health.
These days when I start to feel overwhelmed, I take immediate action to stop it!.
Here are the 9R’s I use to manage and move forward from overwhelm of which should be priority in our lives at all times and not just when we start to feel overwhelmed or stressed,
1. Rest
Overwhelm and stress (if it has gone that far) is a signal to your mind and body that you need to slow down. One way of slowing down is to get more rest – rest more during your day, take regular breaks from work and keep these breaks device free. If you are taking breaks but using your phone to scroll social media/listen to podcasts/listen to or read books your mind isn’t really getting a break.
Your mind needs a total break from devices to switch off and recharge.
Not only is rest important, it’s quality rest with no electronic devices!!
Another way to slow down is to get more quality hours sleep. Research has shown that we don’t function optimally without sufficient sleep.
Sufficient sleep is a different number for everyone – I have always needed 8 hours sleep to function and I fully feel the effects when I don’t get those 8 hours. By adding ‘adequate sleep’ as a priority to your ‘to do list’ your physical, mental and emotional health will benefit.
2. Relax
How many hours in your day do you spend relaxing, really relaxing – away from social media and all electronics?
It’s so important to relax, – to stop going, to stop moving, to stop thinking and just breathe!
Whatever you do for relaxation, whether it’s reading, listening to music/podcasts, watching tv, meditating or just being – it is so important to schedule this into each and every day.
This will not only keep your mind and body healthy, it will also keep you sane! I’m a big fan of relaxing as I know how it supports me to get more done but I don’t relax as much as I would like to or need to. It’s something I definitely need to find more time for and not only when I feel overwhelmed.
3. Reconnect
Reconnecting with yourself and whoever/whatever you may have lost contact with that gives you joy will help you slow down and focus on the priorities in life and not just what makes it to the ‘to do list’.
This reconnection can be with people such as family, friends, colleagues, team mates or it can be with whatever or whomever you have a spiritual or religious connection with – God, Buddha, Allah, Source, Universe – whatever works for you.
For me, my connection with my boyfriend Mike, my family and my friends is essential for my happiness and well being. There is no easier way to enjoy yourself, slow down and take your mind off your ‘to do list’ than spending quality time (minus electronics!) with the people you love.
My connection to myself and my spiritual growth is the cornerstone on which everything else is built and is absolutely essential for my happiness and well being.
4. Replenish
Replenish your Mind, Body and Soul with what it needs – good food, regular exercise, time in nature, creative hobbies, sports, silence, crowds, prayer – whatever works for you.
Fill your surroundings with good thoughts and kind deeds, this will not only benefit you but those whom you spend time with.
Above all make sure the person you are kindest to is yourself.
For me, the following are the basics required to replenish my Mind, Body and Soul – quality time with Mike, family & friends, reading, writing, solitude, meditating, journaling and exercising.
5. Remove Clutter
Clutter can be physical, emotional or digital.
Physical clutter is stuff in our physical spaces that no longer serves us. Physical clutter also takes up space in our minds, a messy space is a messy mind. Start clearing physical clutter away and your mind will start to feel clearer.
Emotional clutter is all sorts of negative energy, thoughts and beliefs. These are not beneficial to our physical, mental & emotional well being and they do not serve us. Evaluating and replacing these negative energies with positive energies will remove what feels like physical weights from our shoulders.
Digital clutter seems to build up almost without us knowing. Photos on our phones, digital downloads, scanned documents, space consuming e-mails. If you work online, the amount of digital clutter is almost never ending. Digital clutter can also be scrolling time, time spend mindlessly scrolling and clicking through links online – this creates digital clutter in our brains!!
Removing all types of clutter will create the space to allow whatever you want in your life to manifest!
6. Reading
Reading is an excellent way of tuning out of this busy world into other worlds of whatever interests you.
Reading is for me one of the most relaxing things I can do. I love nothing more than sitting down with a great book, soaking up the wisdom and learning as I relax!
I also love listening to audiobooks while out and about, it’s a very efficient way of getting through books – most audiobooks are narrated by the author which is an added bonus!!
7. Writing
I know writing starts with W but phonetically it starts with R!
I love writing just as much as I love reading and also find it very relaxing.
Writing helps me gather my thoughts and clear my mind. I love all sorts of writing, writing in my journal, writing blog posts and writing e-books. You can download my first e-book ‘The A-Z of Effective Change’ at the end of this blog post.
I often say, if I could read and write for a living that would be my perfect job!
I updated this blog post to include the next 2 Rs as my great friend Tony Mc suggested them, thanks Tony!
8. Rush – no need to rush!
My friend Tony says ‘try not to rush, everyone is in a big rush today’.
This is so true, I find the speed at which we live our lives has increased.
Add our connection to social media and the online world where everything is instant & immediate and this makes for lives lived at a dizzying speed.
We all know that the busier we are the faster time seems to go, we also know that we can’t slow down time, the speed at which it passes is set.
We may not be able to slow down time, but what we can do is slow ourselves down – stop rushing from one thing to another, stop racing to and from activities, stop taking on too much, stop filling our calendars with things to do, stop filling our minds with things to process!
Being ‘crazy busy’ is not good for your Mind, Body or Soul. What is good for and what nurtures your Mind, Body and Soul is being more mindful, more intentional and more present, all can be achieved by slowing down.
Even reading the words mindful, intentional, present will slow down a bit.
9. Rewind & Reflect
My friend Tony says ‘rewind and take a step back’ of which I also totally agree.
If we continuously move forward without rewinding, taking a step back and reflecting on our experiences we are missing out on so much learning. We are our own greatest teachers yet we must invest the time to rewind, step back and reflect to bring our inner teachings into our lives.
I am a huge fan of reflection.
The wisdom gained from reflecting on your own experiences can be found nowhere else and is well worth the time it takes.
That’s it, the 9Rs to eliminate overwhelm.
I hope you are using some of these to eliminate overwhelm and avoid stress in your life.
What do you do to deal with overwhelm?
Do you use any of the 9Rs?
Can you suggest anything else to eliminate overwhelm?
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Thanks for reading,
Siobhain
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